Tuesday, December 8, 2009

Tuesday with Mentor and Mentee - Rissa & Gerica

"Hey Rissa, Thanks for being 100% with me. I really appreciate the time and effort you put in our relationship. It's been cool this year, you had your share of problems and I had my share of difficulties but we are still here! I am going to San Jose next year but we will still stay in touch."
- Gerica

Monday, December 7, 2009

Tony's Blog: Afghanistan? Gang Payback, Gang Sweeps...




" I have come into this world to see this:

       the sword drop from man's hands

                         even at the top of their arc of

                              anger because we have finally

                                   realized there is just

                                one flesh we can wound."
             


                                                                      Hafiz


Saturday, December 5, 2009

Tony’s Blog: I found myself plummeting towards the earth…didn’t hear the instruction to pull the cord




How surely gravity’s law
strong as an ocean current
takes hold of even the smallest thing
and pulls it toward the heart of the world.
Each thing—
each stone, blossom, child—
is held in place
Only we, in our arrogance
push out beyond what we each belong to
for some empty freedom.
If we surrendered
to earth’s intelligence
we could rise up rooted, like trees.
Instead we entangle ourselves
in knots of our own making
and struggle, lonely and confused.
So, like children, we begin again
to learn from the things
because they are in God’s heart
they have never left him.
This is what the things can teach us
to fall patiently
to trust our heaviness

Even a bird has to do that
before he can fly.
                                           Rilke

Thus I found myself plummeting towards the earth from 12,000 feet in the air…terra firma rushing up to meet me at 120mph. I don’t know why it affected me so much. I only know that in that moment I felt totally alive. They call it “free falling” and I have never felt so free. But falling? That was not the sensation. I was flying! Free of the usual impediments that keep my holy body from fully experiencing life: No fear, no analysis, no ego, no judgment, no worry about performance, just the sensation of flight that I didn’t want to ever end. Consumed by wonderment and joy, I began to laugh. Perhaps that’s why I didn’t hear the instruction to pull the cord that would deploy the chute. So, the instructor pulled the cord for me a full 1000 feet below the intended level. Then a new sensation: gliding through the sky with an incomparable view of the world, the horizon, no obstructions. I was a part of the sky.

Upon reflection I realized that whatever nervousness and fear I had were felt most profoundly on the plane as it ascended. And isn’t that the case in so much of life. The narrative that we tell ourselves as we try to reach some kind of spiritual heights so often feels heavy and unobtainable. It is when we allow ourselves to dive down into the place of soul that we find the richness that creates awakening.
As Jung put it:
"One does not become enlightened by imagining figures of light, but by making the darkness conscious."
The gravity that incites our skydiving experience is the gravitas that informs our transformational experience. Don’t fall into trouble, dive into it, and in the diving down we reach the heights that we had all along been looking upward to attain. It takes commitment and a certain kind of trust.

When the young people that we work with choose to face their wounds the healing begins in that choice – free fall becomes flight. The biggest surprise of the entire skydiving experience for me was when I was kneeling in the doorway looking out and down just before the jump. I had expected that to be the most anxious moment, but I was surprisingly calm. I discovered peace amidst the chaos and noise of the plane. Peace that comes from defeating indecision. There was no deciding to do. The covenant with myself had been confirmed. With a slight movement we tumbled out of the airplane and down…toward a higher understanding of life.

Tony LoRe

Friday, December 4, 2009

Friday's Follow Up


I am not young enough to know everything. Oscar Wilde

Tony's Blog: I found myself plummeting
Tony describes the liberating feeling of skydiving and how it relates to inner growth.

Tuesday with Mentor and Mentee - Lauren & Gaby
Gaby shares how Lauren has helped her to be open to new things.

They Drank The Good Kool Aid
Juliana shares about how much emotional nourishment she receives from our dedicated mentors.

The promise of healthy food in Los Angeles
Teens from South Los Angeles partner in a great program, Health Eating Active Communities,
to encourage teens to eat healthy.

Hope everyone had a great Thanksgiving and now it's on to the holiday season!
La Judy

The promise of healthy food in Los Angeles

http://laist.com/2009/11/30/market_makeovers.php


In a city where liquor stores out number places where one can find good fresh fruit and vegetables, it is great to know that there is a conscious effort being made to provide the community with healthier alternatives. Not only are teens from South Los Angeles partnering with Health Eating Active Communities to encourage youth to eat healthy snacks as alternatives to what they typically consume but there is also an effort being made to have local corner stores convert to selling more fresh fruits and vegetables. Although it is a hard task, the benefits that the community will receive are definitely the incentive. It seems that more and more people are beginning to see how crucial it is to make an effort in trying to provide the community with healthier options. The youth is society’s most useful resource because they bring energy and hope to our constant struggles, therefore, educating them and really bringing a sense of consciousness to them is vital for the needs of our communities to be met. Too often they are undervalued and ignored but what they have to offer can really change course of our struggles.

Thursday, December 3, 2009

THEY DRANK THE GOOD KOOL AID



My apologies for my tardy blog, but I had to let this one marinate, and the more I sat with it, the more it breathed into life. I am in my 12th year of doing this amazing work with Tony, and my 18th year in working with young people (yeah you heard me – 18! I started when I was 2!). And some days are harder than others. Some days, I am tired, a little beat up, and just plain done. But I put one foot in front of the other and do what is in front of me, and that is when the miracles happen, when the people I have the privilege of working with nourish my soul and remind me how blessed I am.

Not a broken economy, broken homes or broken hearts can break the spirits of our family of mentors and mentees. Yesterday, I was feeling a little blah, and was grateful for the opportunity to go to an information session at one of our corporate partners, where we get to sucker employees into becoming mentors by bringing past mentors and mentees to talk about their experience in our program. Easy-peasy. But this particular info session had a melancholic bitter sweetness to it. This was a program we thought we had lost, but thankfully, due to the remarkable philanthropic environment that exists in this wonderful company we are able to continue to mentor young people in their offices. Sadly they had to lay off some of the most dedicated mentors we had. This however, was not enough to keep one of them from asking to continue to volunteer with YMC, and help coordinate the program so that she could stay connected to us, and the kids. “It is not easy to come back here after being laid-off trust me, but this is how powerful this program is, and how much it means to me, and how much it has changed my life”. I started to feel small and petty. Griselda spoke next. She was a mentee for 2 years in this program. “I came into this program not trusting, because I just don’t trust anyone with my life. And when I met Tracy, I thought she was fun, but I was still skeptical. It took a long time, but slowly I saw that I could trust her, and talk to her about my dysfunctional family, and I never felt like she judged me. I really believe that it is because of her and YMC that I am where I am today. Because they believed in me, and told me that I could do anything I set my mind to.” Griselda works for YMC and is a mentor to one of our middle school girls. I began to feel grateful.

When I got back to the office, I was doing my job ;-) by checking my facebook, and was intrigued by one of our mentor’s plea to help his wife’s challenge to see “How much difference can one person make”. I have to preempt this by saying that we have considered doing an off-shoot of YMC and calling it DMC for Danni’s Mentoring Connection for all this magnificent woman has done, not only for a gaggle of mentees, but for YMC as well. For her birthday she has asked her friends to donate to YMC, and see how much of a difference she can make. And I was feeling blah????? Seriously???? How dare I? I am speechless.

So thank you Debrah for introducing me to my bliss. Thank you Tony for teaching me and helping me live my truth. And thank you to all my heroes, MENTORS AND MENTEES, who remind me how unbelievably fortunate I am to have the most rewarding, beautiful and soulful life I could have ever asked for.

Tuesday, December 1, 2009

Tuesday with Mentor and Mentee - Lauren & Gaby


"Lauren has shown me I can open up to someone and to be open to new things. I got to trust Lauren and tell her things I would not tell other people. I can say she has become a friend to me. She took time off her life and spend time with me on some weekends. In this program I've learned I am capable of doing anything I set my mind to".

-Gaby

Monday, November 30, 2009

Friday's Follow Up


Alone we can do so little; together we can do so much.
Helen Keller

Tony's Bog: The Continuing Adventures of Gio in Wonderland
Tony discusses how important it is to beware of the company we keep. Gio continues to inspire those around him as he moves forward in life with education.

Tuesday with Mentor and Mentee-Christina & Brittani
Brittani wants to thank Christina for keeping her on the right track.

The Hugging Monster
Sarah writes about the controversial aspects of hugging.

I hope everyone had a great Thanksgiving!
La Judy